What advice would you give to a bride-to-be who doesn't want to feel insecure about her looks anymore?

I'm tired of worrying about the way that I look all of the time. I'm afraid of my wedding because I'm afraid of the way that I look and people judging me on that. This has really been a major issue in my life and I'm not a teen, I'm 23 years old working on a grad degree.What advice would you give to a bride-to-be who doesn't want to feel insecure about her looks anymore?
I know exactly how you feel. This was one of my biggest concerns for my wedding day. I wanted to look perfect - as does every bride. I used to be about 100 pounds heavier ( I lost all the weight before the wedding or engagement). For my wedding I was able to get myself into a street size 6 dress - but I still looked in the mirror and didn't like what I saw, no matter how many people told me I looked beautiful. I think it doesn't matter what size you are. You could lose 50 pounds right now and still be insecure.


As a bride, I knew that there were definite things that I was insecure about and knew I wouldn't be happy unless I did something about it. Like for instance - I hate my arms. So, I was determined to find a dress that had sleeves (not an easy thing to do when they trend is strapless). But, I was lucky and found one right away...


I love my eyes and my long hair. So I did my long hair nice and wavy and very dramatic eyes. I tried to bring out the features that I loved about myself. If you can do that then you will find yourself feeling better about looking in the mirror. But, it's never easy.


I know that everyone will probably tell you this and I know it probably won't matter until you experience it for yourself - but on the day of, you really don't think much about it. Your husband is going to look at you like you are the most gorgeous creature on earth and all of those insecurities will go right out the window.What advice would you give to a bride-to-be who doesn't want to feel insecure about her looks anymore?
This is suppose to be one of the most wonderful time in your life yet you worry about how you will look. You need to get over yourself because you will be carrying on like the rest of your married life and I'm pretty sure your husband to be will not be happy with it.





Just enjoy your wedding and don't worry about what everyone slese thinks about the way you look because as far as I know you're the only one who criticizes the way you look.
You are beautiful for who you are not only looks wise but personality as well and that is something your fiance sees in you. If you feel you are not comfortable with yourself then change it, everyone has the power to change themselves.





Whatever the case may be if you feel you are overweight exercise and eat differently and smaller portions.





If you feel your looks are not good treat yourself to a day of beauty get a new hair cut dye your hair wax your eyebrows.





My point is there is much you can do to change it and once you put that into action you will begin to feel better about yourself. Beauty is more than looks. There are plenty of hot girls who are just ugly as can be on the inside..





Either way know your fiance loves you for who you are and you should enjoy every aspect of your special day... Good Luck
Just don't worry about it. It seems like you have a great life: someone who loves you, and you are working on a degree. At your wedding, everybody will be there to see you do this big step towards achieving happiness and love. Don't be so insecure about it, because looks are not nearly as important as having a fun, memorable wedding. People will not judge you if you get to know them and be yourself. Let people see the real you and stop worrying about appearences!
take a good look at your fiance and when your thinking how gorgeous he is just remember hes thinking the same thing about you. I was and still am the same way. I worry about my looks all the time and then my husband comes home and tells me I'm still the most becutiful thing in his life. spending life worried about how you looks is no way to spend life at all. when your gone will people remember you because you looked good or will the remember you becuase of how you are and the things you did with your life? chances are for the things you did. take a look at a girl you think is beautiful and ask yourself this...is she a better person becuase of her looks? not likely...will she always have her looks?...not likely...is she about to marry the man of her dreams and get her grad degree and start a wonderful future becuase of her looks? not likely. be happy you are who you are becuase someone (your fiance) is happy you are.
http://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/bookl鈥?/a>





Self-esteem.





Seek counseling if necessary. As the site says:


Talk to a Therapist or Counselor


Sometimes low self-esteem can feel so painful or difficult to overcome that the professional help of a therapist or counselor is needed.


Talking to a counselor is a good way to learn more about your self-esteem issues and begin to improve your self-esteem.





I think you asked this question before. ????


I think I have sent you this site before. Others also gave you good advice at that time.





Seriously, get a mani and pedi for the wedding. Have your hair and makeup professionally done that morning. You will be a glowing, happy and lovely bride.





Your guests are not there to be harsh and judgmental. These people love you . . . and they will think you are a beautiful bride.





If these thoughts continue to disturb you, please seek counseling.
The most important thing is to remember that the man you are going to spend the rest of your life with thinks you are beautiful. You should focus on wearing something that highlights what you think are your best attributes and what you feel beautiful in. Once you get up to that alter and see the way he is looking at you everything else will melt away as long as you remember to breath.
If you re-read your question, you will see that each of these are internal fears. I dont mean to be harsh, but they are problems you have with yourself. So, it is entirely up to YOU to change your mind and learn to love yourself. If you really really want to, you will take the necessary steps to do it: self-help book, makeover, therapy, what have you... but its up to you, and you alone, to take action. The kind words of others will continue to go in one ear and out the other, until you help yourself.


Get the support of your fiance or a friend to encourage you as you take the first steps.
A lot of brides are nervous of their wedding day. You want everything to be perfect, and that includes how you look. It's normal - we all go through it..





One thing I can tell you is that you most likely haven't changed how you look, from about 6 months ago. You weren't nervous of your appearance then, were you? Was your hubby-to-be?





Of course not! You need to relax, know that he loves you, and he's quite happy with how you look. On your wedding day he's going to be ga-ga!





How about giving yourself a couple treats before the wedding? Little things just for you. A spa day maybe? A massage? Time to do something silly that you never do - like feeding the ducks at the park or something. Recharge your battery and de-stress.





Don't worry....everything will be fine. ;)
Congratulations on getting married :)


I used to have the same feelings as you, so incredibly tired of being concerned with how I looked, how other people viewed me etc. etc. But one morning when I was getting ready I realized that I am beautiful, I sat down ( I was very late to work that day by the way) and went through all my strenghs. Everything from my handwriting to my hair. Then I thought about my flaws and realized that flaws are not bad, they are what define you from everyone else. Hope I helped %26lt;3
Well, first of all, you are still young. I think it takes women quiet a while to get comfortable with their looks and their body.





Second, are your worries realistic worries or are they exaggerations? We all have things about our bodies we don't like. We either choose to accept our flaws or do something about them, assuming we can.





Third, if it consumes your time, you can consider psychotherapy. It sounds like you might have other insecurities, too.





Good luck!
He wants to marry you he must think your hot. i have been doing a lot of thinking about what makes people pretty and if you take a look around you most people are pretty. Everyone has features that are pretty and some that are ugly. the people who usually seem the prettiest are the people who feel the best about themselves. so you should always think you look good.
If the people u invite r ur friends, they wont care wut u look like. Either stop worrying, or maybe talk to one of ur closest girlfriends. I am sure everything will be fine
You need to embrace your inner Bride In Total Control of Herself! You ARE the shitake mushrooms, and don't let anyone tell you different!
Just say, your marrying the man of ur dreams. and He loves me for me! He loves me for the way i look. i shouldnt care what other people think!
It's hard to get over it, but people who love you don't care. Get your hair done, and makeup...you'll be gorgeous.
You are the Bride...this means that he selected you...IE he finds you attractive. To heck with what other losers think!